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Why you should let go of resentment

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“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” – Saint Augustine

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Today I’ve been pondering a excerpt from the “You Were Born Rich” seminar by Bob Proctor I recommended in this blog post. Here it is, word for word from the seminar.

“Resentment and guilt are very closely aligned. One’s directed at someone else, the other’s directed toward yourself, but you’re the beneficiary of both, and neither one are positive.”

Powerful words. 


Resentment is blind

When we resent someone else, we lose sight of what is actually happening. The emotion of “justification” can feel good in the body, but only temporarily. It often leads to shame, fear, and guilt, because it causes us to put on those blinders and build a fortress against someone else. 

The part we’re blind to is the fact that no matter what we do, we can never control the internal dialogue or feelings of someone else. While true you may know how to push someone else’s buttons, they at any time can chose to think however they want about it. If they take control of their thoughts, they take control of their feelings, and all your resentment is a whirlpool that only you are stuck in.


Drinking poison

Like the quote at the top of the page says: resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. I’ve also hear it said it’s like throwing dust into a strong wind. No matter how hard you throw it, it’s just blowing back on you. 

The biggest reason to let go of resentment is because you are the one who is negatively affected by it the most. It’s like Bob Proctor said, you’re the beneficiary.

When you resent someone, even though you might feel just and powerful, you’re truly giving all of your power to the person you’re resenting. You’re giving them your thoughts. You’re giving them your time. You’re making them a central figure in the play that is your life. And guess who your brain is going to pay attention to the most in that play?

The villain. 


Affirm something new

Bob Proctor also shared the following affirmation to release resentment:

“I willingly release the thoughts and things that have cluttered my mind.

I release (insert name here) to their highest good, happiness, health and wealth, and me to mine.”

Isn’t that so much better than hating on someone? You both get something that all humans want: freedom.

Quite drinking the poison. Quit throwing the dust. Release your resentment so you can concentrate on YOUR life and the good that YOU want.


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